How to Deal
I decided on my walk home today that I wanted to talk about “Insecurity”.
Although at first that might not sound like a fitness topic – It is 100% something that should be discussed.
What is Insecurity?
Well, from one person to the next it could be very different.
Some people are insecure about their bodies – weight, shape of nose, height, etc.
Other people are insecure about their skills or expertise in their chosen fields.
Some people are even insecure about their education or knowledge base.
As I said before – there are many things that can make a person feel insecure.
When you feel insecure however, certain emotions can arise and cause even more unpleasant feelings – jealousy, sadness and even feelings of hate towards people you don’t even know.
The thing that we all have to remember is that negativity breeds negativity and if you are feeling insecure about something it could come out in other ways and affect not just your overall level of happiness but even the happiness of the people that surround you.
What we forget sometimes is that we ALL have our insecurities. Even the people that make a point of putting others down – aka. “Bullies” – They are THE MOST insecure people around and that is their way of dealing with it.
I hear some of my most in-shape and beautiful clients complain about their insecurities about their physicalities. In my eyes, and in yours – we may see them as perfect.
In their eyes, they may only see their flaws.
They compare themselves to the person working out next to them.
“I wish I had her calves, I bet she had liposuction”…. “Look at his biceps – he MUST take steroids!”
The judgments begin to fly.
This is MOST ironic however as that person you may be idolizing so much – who you may think is “practically perfect in every way” – They may be idolizing YOU!
We all complain and judge others around us that have the things we want in such a negative way. It’s such a vicious cycle that I see time and time again.
But as I said – we ALL feel this way! So why get down on yourself and then loath on other people.
Why not begin to love yourself first?
Don’t think of being in competition with the person next to you. You are only competing with one person and that’s yourself.
Strive to be the best YOU can be in all aspects of your life. Don’t let negative thinking drag you down. Look in the mirror – take a good hard look and LOVE YOURSELF!
Start with the places you love the most and begin to learn, love and accept the rest!
As I said before, negativity only breeds more negativity. Stop that cycle and start to feel happier today!
